BDSM for beginners: how to start safely
What BDSM is, what the roles are and how to take your first steps: getting informed, talking about fantasies and limits, starting slowly and avoiding the most common mistakes. · 6 min
Guides
Practical advice for enjoying BDSM, fetish and adult encounters with consent and safety: from safewords to the first meeting, from writing an ad to spotting scams.
Safewords and consent in BDSM: what to know before you play
How safewords and the traffic light system work, what SSC and RACK mean, how to negotiate limits and aftercare: consent in BDSM explained in plain words. · 6 min
Shibari for beginners: ropes, knots and safety
Shibari for beginners: which ropes to choose, how to look after them and the safety rules to know before tying anyone up, from shears to circulation. · 6 min
How to write an adult ad that gets replies
How to write an adult ad that works: a clear title, who you are and what you're looking for, the right tone, category and photos, plus the mistakes to avoid. · 5 min
Fake profiles and scams: how to spot them and protect yourself
Photos that are too perfect, a rush to move to WhatsApp, requests for money or “tributes”, blackmail: how to spot fake profiles and scams and what to do straight away. · 5 min
A safe first meeting: what to do before and during
A public place, a friend in the loop, your own transport and no pressure: how to have a safe first meeting, even when BDSM is involved. · 5 min
Free dating sites: how to tell if one really is
Hidden costs, subscriptions that renew themselves, credits and fake profiles: what to check before signing up to a free dating site. · 5 min