Shibari

Shibari is a Japanese word that roughly means “to tie”. In the West it refers to a style of rope bondage that comes from the Japanese tradition and combines aesthetics, technique and intimacy. The term kinbaku is also often used, placing the emphasis on the erotic and emotional side of tying.

How it’s practised, in general

Ropes of natural fibre, such as hemp or jute, or soft synthetic ones are used. Ties range from simple wraps of wrists and arms to elaborate patterns on the torso, up to suspensions, which take years of practice. More than the end result, it’s the process that counts: the rhythm, the contact, the dialogue between the person tying and the person being tied.

Why people enjoy it

For the person being tied, shibari can be an almost meditative experience: the pressure of the ropes, the breathing slowing down, the feeling of being held. For the person tying, it’s an art that demands total attention to the other person. Many also appreciate it for its visual beauty, so much so that there are dedicated shows and photo exhibitions.

Safety and consent

• Blunt-tipped safety shears always within reach.
• Never rope around the neck.
• Watch the nerves in the arms, wrists and legs: tingling or cold hands mean untie immediately.
• A person who is tied up is never left alone.
• No suspensions without serious training with experienced teachers.

Shibari is best learned in courses and practice groups, where someone can correct you. Our dedicated beginners’ guide covers the basic rules in more depth.